It’s 2am in the morning and there’s a lot on my mind that I can’t sleep so I decided to write…

I found these shirts the other day at Target for our upcoming annual family holiday photo shoot, they read “TOGETHER WE CAN DO ANYTHING #FAMILYGOALS”. I love that…Together WE can do ANYTHING. It should have had on it #WORLDGOALS.

to·geth·er is defined as;

With or in proximity to another person or people; at the same time; self-confident, level-headed or well organized

Together…but separate. There’s a lot of information these days on what’s called “holding space” for someone. Usually in relation to grieving a death but I think we do this everywhere in life. A spouse will hold space for the other who’s being the asshole that month (it’s a thing, I swear!), Friends hold space for other friends while they mourn unexpected change in their lives. And parents hold space for their children as they fight to discover who they are and find their own independence.

Together…but separate.

I began this post in mid-November and it’s now the 2nd week of January 2018! Happy New Year! Boy, I never expected this topic to be more significant than it originally started as. We live in Ventura County and if you haven’t been watching the news…the night of December 4th 2017 changed our community forever with the biggest wildfire to hit in the history of California and took the life of Fire Engineer, Cory Iverson and today January 9th the nightmare continues with mudslides in Montecito that has so far taken 13 lives and this number is expected to climb. There has been so much shockwave change since October 2017. Not just in my little speck of the universe but on a much bigger scale and the same still rings true “Together WE CAN do ANYTHING!” #WorldGoals

I stumbled upon this poem last week and I instantly knew it was meant to remind me.SO, it looks like 2018 has decided to start out with lessons. Lessons on perspective. Lessons on compassion and empathy. Lessons on humility and lastly lessons on holding space for your grieving fellow human being. Whether that grief be over the loss of a loved one, or the loss of a cherished home where memories were made. Grief over the loss of what was the plan for the future. And lastly, grief that a parent goes through when a child has gone off course. It all must be allowed and it can’t be rushed. The best thing is to be the person that will hold the space and let GOD do what he’s good at…the healing of broken hearts and the giver of beauty for ashes because “Together WE CAN do ANYTHING!”

My final thought…if you haven’t been told or if you doubt, KNOW that you are AMAZING, BEAUTIFUL, ONE of a KIND and equipped with special talents that only you can use and the world is a brighter place because of you!